What is the most annoying thing about smart people?

One of the more valuable scientific measures to know is the one which measures whether a mind is open or closed. And while this measure in its full form is quite complex, its basic expression is actually quite simple. And useful.

It all comes down to a single, tipping-point based question. Do you feel curious or do you feel certain? Curiosity is the test for an open mind. Certainty is the test for a closed mind.

Since there is always more to things than we can know at any given time, people who are certain are not smart, regardless of IQ. They’re closed-minded. Or to put it in dictionary terms, they’re arrogant. Whereas people who are smart are perpetually curious. Think Einstein. Think Descartes. Think Neils Bohr.

My point? Smart people are NOT annoying. They’re wonderful. Whereas pseudo-smart people, such as educated people who sport closed minds, are incredibly annoying.

(I originally answered this question on Quora.com)


Misconceptions About Asperger’s

I am a therapist almost thirty years. A few years back, a newspaper called asking to interview me. How can a man with Asperger’s possibly help others? As if having Asperger’s makes me an inhuman freak.

On Friday mornings, I see several people with Asperger’s. One, whom I’ll call “K,” wrote the following recently. When he showed it to me, I cried; for him, for me, and for every person the world has ever given a label to.

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Can Eating With Your Hands Make You Lose Weight?

Recently, someone wrote and asked:

Good morning Steven!
In the last few days, I've been listening to a CD about Ayurveda lifestyle and nutrition. A couple of things they suggested I've already tried; primarily not eating after 6 o'clock, although I've eaten as late as 7:30, eating a big lunch so that what you have for dinner is light and minimal, and doing some exercise. One minute, five minutes, 20 minutes . . . before breakfast.

There are many other things, but those three I've already been doing. But I recently added one new suggestion and have eaten like a horse. Yet already, I've lost about 4 pounds. My question is whether this loss can in part be coming this new suggestion; the idea that you should eat with your hands.

As for what I observed, as I began, I felt curious (open minded). I also noticed that if I eat with a spoon, I'm put food in my mouth more quickly and I'm noticeably less conscious of what's on the spoon. Whereas if I use my fingers to pick up the cereal, or yesterday the eggs, it slows me down and I feel more aware of the food in my mouth. More important, it isn't a conscious decision to eat more slowly. It's just an awareness. So if the food is in my hand, it doesn't go into my mouth until there is nothing in my mouth! 

Another thin I realized is that if you cook a hot omelette and use your fingers to pick it up, you'll never burn your mouth, as your fingers computer temperature that the fork can't convey.

Your Thoughts?

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Defining the word, “Fractal?”

Science and Their “Definitions”

Most scientifically minded folks object when a person like me uses a word like “fractal.” Not surprisingly, as someone with Asperger’s, I define this word a bit differently than most. Please know that it took me more than a decade to find a satisfying way to define this word. Only recently, after finishing my latest book, did I begin to feel confident I’d succeeded.

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On Becoming Yoda

One glance at my picture and you know how I spend my life. My wrinkles have wrinkles; everyday, I’m getting more. My point? According to the skin horse in the Velveteen Rabbit, when you’re real, you don’t mind such things. According to me, the more curious I become, the less I mind.

Do you mind getting older? Wrinkled? Gray? According to constellated science, all coins have two sides. Applied to becoming Yoda, I guess this means there must be both a bad and a good side to getting old. And this seems true. But I wonder why we mostly only see the bad side?